Desperately seeking ‘THE ONE’
Have you ever desperately been in search of ‘the one’?
The magic bullet that will make weight loss easy? Your ‘soul mate’ diet if you like?
I still get odd times where I wish ‘the one’ existed (even though I know it doesn’t!) – I think many of us do!
Hard not to when we are constantly bombarded with seductive ads for weight loss, and so many different and ‘new’ plans all claiming to finally be THE one!
Some of us misguidedly believe that we have found the one- the diet plan (or slimming company) that worked for us once (perhaps twice), many years ago!
We believe if we could just stick to it, it would bring us happiness again just as it did the first time. We believe that there must be some imperfection in us, that prevents us from being successful with it- after all it worked before!
This is exactly what happened to me! I thought I’d found my holy grail, the answer to my prayers. And at the time it was.
Unfortunately that time was 20 years ago!
The truth is that I kept clinging to the ‘slimming club solution’, even when it was no longer working.
I blamed myself for not being able to ‘stick to it’, for having no willpower.
It felt scary to admit that what had worked for me once, wasn’t working it’s magic any more.
According to Linda Bacon in her book Health At Every Size, the reason that restriction diets aimed at weight loss stop working, is that each time we try to diet it becomes more difficult. Our bodies and our brains become resistant.
Our bodies adapt to what they perceive as starvation, by lowering our metabolisms and at the same time upping our hunger cues.
It’s not us who are the problem, but the concept of dieting that creates the problem.
There are many studies and statistics that prove this to be the case. (Read the book if you want to find out more- it’s really interesting, and gives a perspective that the diet industry is loathe to share with us!)
Just recently I had 2 conversations with 2 different clients, which really brought home to me how searching for ‘the one’ can keep us stuck where finding a happier relationship with both our bodies and with food is concerned.
The first client talked about continuing in her search of ‘trying to find something that would work for her’. The second was in a panic desperate to lose weight quickly in time for a Christmas do.
In both cases I observed that in their search, they were looking for an external magic bullet………..and here’s the thing. In my opinion, there isn’t one!
There is no diet, no eating plan, no weight loss company out there that has been proven to bring long term success! It is well documented that the HUGE majority of people who manage to lose weight put it all back on again within 5 years (if not sooner!).
(If you don’t believe me, google ‘Statistics that show how diets fail’ and also reference your own personal experience and the experience of people you know.)
I believe our best hope is to make health our goal (not weight loss).
And then to look inwards. To ask ourselves what behaviour changes we are willing to make for the long term. And then to make the time to create new healthy habits- and to recognise that this isn’t all about food. (By the way, if you do want a different approach to eating ‘well’, then eating intuitively could be a solution)
It’s also about moving our bodies more, managing stress, drinking alcohol only in moderation and of course smoking and drugs are not part of a healthy lifestyle either.
Yeah sure, all diets work in the short term……….but if they worked long term how come there has been no improvement regarding the so called ‘obesity epidemic’? How come so many of us are still desperately seeking ‘the one?’
Something to ponder, eh?
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